Liken Marriage 2 a Hsemate...

You surprised at the comparison? Or you wondering how would anyone compare marriage to a house mate? Lately discussions about marriage and problems in marriages have been coming up, she's been reading forums and articles about marriage and every argument that comes with it. It becomes interesting to know that different people have different say about this topic. However, the aim here is not to try to convince anyone that marriage is without it's problems, neither is it an outlet to lay blame on people about how they default in building strong relationships. No! it's not. Notwithstanding, we would only be using the concept of a house mate to shed more light on this symbolic issue of marriage (if there is any such phrase...lol!).

No one ever said marriage is without it's issues but it seems people stress the problems or situations that surface in marriages. As individuals we have our issues, our flaws but yet we have family and friends that accept us for who we are. This also applies to marriage, we all know marriage is a union between a husband and his wife (generally, not placing a religious criteria). When you move in with a house mate, sometimes you guyz could become so close that you become the best of friends, and sometimes, people mistake you for siblings (assuming same gender or background). Prior to moving in you have your flaws but this is over looked by the house mate (if the above statement applies) and you're sometimes able to reach a compromise. It's similar with marriage, because your partner accepts you for you, with your flaws and differences in opinions, yet that does not disrupt the growth of the relationship.

However, if you have a house mate were either one can not stand the sight of the other, then living could become difficult. Similarly in marriage, if both partners are not compatible that could cause a big problem in the relationship. As a result, it becomes an issue of leaving the marriage, if one is not exactly an advocate of divorce (that's subjective). Unlike were with the house mate, you could decide to move out or have a change of house mates. Marriage isn't a bed of roses, it does come with it's own issues because it's no longer just an individual but two of them working to build their relationship. And as with a compatible house mate you both could be best friends for life. Just as with marriage, if you're able to make it work, then you grow stronger. At this junction your vows manifest itself...

"For better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do you part!"- Even in death you probably still would love the person (can't exactly tell you how that works!). It's been great having you around, take care. Arrivederci!!!

Poem - Connection

I feel every bit of connection
As it lights up every fire
Without experiencing any distraction
Echoing for every bit of my desire
Seeping through the inner parts of my vein
Just as it had been ordained
All I should have ever maintained.
Like someone in pain.
When I suddenly felt lost
I found myself at no cost
Waiting anxiously to be helped home
It felt more comfortable than ever
As though I lived in Rome
I promised to stay forever.

Opinion Matters...

Wheew! Ok, this is the 20th post and boi do I thank God for strength! This post is titled opinion matters cause our readers' opinions matter a lot. Every once in a while, we would be having 'opinion matters' based on different topics or questions. It could be general questions, it could be a problem a reader is seeking other readers' opinion on: Whatever the case may be, all your opinions matter. And they are greatly appreciated. We all have different perspectives on things, most issues have a subjective point of view, thereby resulting in different points of view. It is interesting to hear what each of us have to say about different things. So drop the comments, opinions, views and even your sentiments...you're welcomed!
Merci!

Q: What does life mean to you? [the essence of life].

Pictures Speak!

Sydney, Australia.

Caracas, Venezuela

Cuzco, Peru

Frankfurt, Germany

Rome, Italy

Vancouver, British Columbia (Canada)

Lagos, Nigeria (when NEPA/PHCN hasn't struck)

Lagos, Nigeria (after NEPA/PHCN has struck)...lol

Had a splendid weekend? Looking forward to starting a new week? Aiight, we are looking at something different this week, and she hopes this worked out. Mostly especially because this is the first trial as you might have guessed. We all know that pictures speak louder than words themselves. Looking at a picture gives different meanings to different people. So if you get the hang of this that would be nice. This was inspired by Linda's blog which she (this blog's author) happens to read frequently...Hope you got the underlying message! Take care y'all.

Ur Tongue!

3 weeks and counting, guilty or not guilty? So what have we all been going through? More like how are you doing? Hope your weekend went well? The tongue is a small part of our body but, it is very powerful. The tongue is small but mighty. Most of us are guilty of using our tongue as we please. We use our tongue(s) to bless and curse others. Us humans have to learn to tame our tongue. Not being able to tame our tongue could get us into a lot of trouble. And trust, trouble comes in different shapes, forms and sizes. To tame one's tongue is to have the ability to easily manage or handle one's tongue- the things we say.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof" [Proverbs 18: 21]. Think about it. Arrivederci!

A Reminder...

Life has got no duplicate, so do what you can, when you can and how best you can. Life is too short for you to keep grudges with others. It's too short for you to 'sweat the small things- stuff'. Be grateful for the life you have. Show your gratitude by making a difference while you are alive.

BTW: Thank you Easier, and all other websites that have been sending traffic to this page. She appreciates each and every one of you. Gracias!

Forwarded Messages- The Funeral

Hey y'all, how are you preparing for the new week? Today's article was sent to me by one of my big sisters' at church. It's a forward, of which most of us get them, but sometimes delete them. That's another discussion for another day, because she's guilty of this 'crime'. Read with meaning...

"One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big sign on the door on which was written: 'Yesterday, the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym. In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself. The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up.

Everyone thought: 'Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, atleast he died!'
One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it, they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul. There was a mirror inside the coffin, everyone who looked inside could see a reflection of him or herself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: 'There is only one person who is capable of setting limits to your growth: IT IS YOU!!!'
Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your husband or wife change, when your company changes, when your church changes, when your location changes, when your money changes, when your status changes...

Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs. Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don't be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities and losses. Be a winner, build yourself and your reality. It's the way you face Life that makes the difference!"
Remember we all fall, but it's the way we get up that really matters- that's what counts.
She's working on it...Are you doing the same?