It's been a while...

Thought about you some few days ago, felt as if she offended you by not writing...Listening to "Ekundayo" by TY Bello, and became motivated to write. It is true not having as much readers could sometimes make a blogger think twice. Thinking, without readers, there's no use for the blog. However, still appreciative of those who take the time to come around and hope to God it makes a difference. Thought about writing about relationships, marriage and even ask questions and talk about ladies who keep going back to abusive relationships. But it doesn't feel right as of yet. Believe everything in life happens in good timing. Not blogging when you feel you are suppose to, or not blogging at the usual time (you blog), creates a feeling in you...as if you let someone down, or like committing an offense. Although it's different this time because you are fully aware of this act, but one doesn't 'retrace' one's steps.

So was writing a paper this week about multiculturalism for one of her Sociology classes and came across a quote by Malcolm X, which seems pretty interesting. Using a cup of coffee to explain the concept of multiculturalism and its significance. Pretty neat eh? Below is the quote by someone we all remember (controversial...you may say)! Writing this now reminds one of Spike Lee's 'Malcolm X'(s') film. Anyhuu...leaving you with the quote for this week:
"It's just like when you've got some coffee that's too black, which means it's too strong. What do you do? You integrate it with cream, you make it weak. But if you pour too much cream in it, you wouldn't even know you ever had coffee. It used to be hot, it becomes cool. It used to be strong, it becomes weak. It used to wake you up, now it puts you to sleep."
Moral: Do everything in moderation.
Have a blast in this coming week. Ciao!

BARACK HUSSEIN OBAMA- The 44th Presidential Elect!

So just had to blog earlier this week. With November 4th (2008 obviously) being a very historic day in the United States! Am sure we all remember where we were when Obama was elected as being the 44TH PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES. Some of us couldn't laugh or cry, others cried, laughed and screamed. Finally Martin Luther King's dream had come true. The world stands to witness this victory. And as Obama puts it, it's we (the voters), the people that own this victory. In his words; "Change has come to America". Yes we can, is now as of November 4th 2008...YES WE HAVE!

Our prayer is God would give him the strength to lead his people. Like Obama said "it might not be done in 1yr or in a term, slowly but surely we would get there."
And to top it all...his acceptance speech [which was *speechless*] and this whole event is something we all can learn from.
"This victory alone is not the change we seek- it is only the chance for us to make that change."
CONGRATULATIONS TO AMERICA'S 44TH PRESIDENTIAL ELECT...BARACK HUSSEIN OBAMA!

As we all know: "Rosa Parks sat so Martin Luther King could walk, Martin walked so that Barack Obama could run, Obama is running so that our children can fly." Keep the flag flying people.
This victory tells us that; when we dream we should dream BIG, don't give up, it would take a lot of hard work, but it's all worth it. YES YOU CAN, YES WE HAVE!
Adios!

5ive Categories of Wives...

Hope you aren't surprised at the title of this post...lol! Oh well, what can we say? This was inspired by someone in the film industry. And according to the person there are five categories of women. Would agree with the way these five categories were described. So here goes the list;

The categories are as follows:
1.) Double Dealers: They are neither here nor there. Not because they don't want to get married, but their ex-lovers won't let them. They answer to both their husbands and their concubines. Sometimes they treat their concubines better than they treat their husbands.

2.) Friends: They are friends to the husbands and at the same time to the concubines. They can have two husbands in their neighborhood.

3.) Elders- known as 'egbon'* (a.k.a The Controllers): They behave as if God has given them powers. They are very powerful and whatever they say musn't be changed. It's a case of 'yes' and 'amen', no questions asked! They give orders to their husbands and they don't see it as something bad. Even her mother-in-law dare not come pay them a visit. She'll throw out her property: After all, 'why does she have to come without any prior notice?' She won't like to see her husband's relations, but her husband will and must take care of the responsibilities of her own relations!

The above 3hree types are placed in the 'bad' categories.

4.) A Wife like a Mother: 'If a mother is talking to her child, if the child is sensible and responsible, he'll listen to his mother'. This is a wife that wants nothing but the best for her husband.

5.) A Wife like a Child: A wife who will advice her husband and, who will be very industrious.

*Note: 'egbon' is a yoruba word for someone older than you (i.e. senior).

Now, wouldn't be surprised if some people do not agree with these categories, bearing in mind it's based on a subjective view. But we would probably have people who agree with one or more of the above categories. It's been nice having you around. Stay safe and have a blast this new week! And a big thank you to the new readers who have stopped by. Gracias!

Words of Wisdom...

Would go right to it...

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him- Let it go!

You might claim to be busy...but God is never too busy to take care of you. It might seem there isn't a way out, nevertheless, I want you to hold on because you are a living testimony. That is why after the trial comes the victory, and then the freedom. Yours is the talk of perfection. - With Love.

The life you live was lent to you by the owner and therefore when you make decisions, you must ask the owner.

If you've got wisdom, you have the strength to love, and the ability to acquire wealth!

Without a clear understanding of your purpose, life becomes an experiment!

For those celebrating thanksgiving, Happy Thanksgiving! For those who are traveling, here's wishing you safe journey. Have a blessed weekend!

Jokes- The Difference btw Advertising and Marketing

How's everyone doing? Here's something for the weekend... It was sent by a friend.

You see a gorgeous girl at a party. You go up to her and say:
"I am very rich. "Marry me!" - That's Direct Marketing..."
You're at a party with a bunch of friends and see a gorgeous girl.
One of your friends goes up to her, and pointing at you says:
"He's very rich."Marry him." -That's Advertising..."

See the difference...lol!
Have a great weekend.

There's No Gambling...with God.

It's a new month...September! Wishing all those born in September a prosperous year. Defining the act of gambling would be; "to take a risk in the hope of gaining an advantage or a benefit." - (Answers.com). And we all are guilty of gambling with God. We all engage in the act of gambling, although we engage in different forms of gambling. Even the 'unbelievers', when we come face to face with an unexpected situation like- staring death in the face, there is a tendency for us to begin gambling. The famous statement is 'God if you can save me from..., I would never do... again', we would start recounting how we would never steal, lie, or cheat, again: Or any other act or crime/offense we are guilty of committing. Just as 'unbelievers' are guilty of such act, we believers are not exempted from such practices.

We say 'God if you do this...for me, I would do this... in return'. Ever heard this statement before? Wouldn't be surprised you say it as much as your neighbor says it. It becomes a give and take experiment with God. Why can't we attempt to serve God in Spirit and in Truth? Be like Solomon, present the offering, be obedient, be a blessing unto others, and definitely God would do His part. It doesn't always have to be 'God do this for ME and then I would do this for YOU...after you must have given ME what I asked. Our relationship no longer becomes what it is suppose to be, it becomes a bank account where...the bank charges you for services rendered to your account. We only serve God in OUR convenient time. We only worship God when we feel He has done what we asked of Him. Sometimes we only serve Him when there is trouble and we need help, need a way out of our problems.

Expatiating on our relationship with our Creator as a 'bank account'- we would use a savings account to illustrate this relationship. For a savings account, the bank only adds interest to the account, at a certain percentage (this rate fluctuates), when we deposit money into the account. Therefore, God 'represents' the savings account (with all due respect), and we become the bank itself. We only give God our praises and gratitude when we 'feel' He has added value to our life, or has done what we request of Him. And we begin to decide how much of our praises and gratitude we would give, depending on how big or 'small' the miracle is.

After all is said and done; We all our guilty of gambling with God in our different ways...
However, He is a merciful and just God, so He provides us with chances...
The verdict is; Thou shall not gamble with God your creator!
Reminder: Present yourself humbly before Him, serve Him in truth and He would do His part...
A wise man had this to say about gambling..."It is the child of avarice, the brother of iniquity, and the father of mischief." - George Washington.
Take care, Adios!

Liken Marriage 2 a Hsemate...

You surprised at the comparison? Or you wondering how would anyone compare marriage to a house mate? Lately discussions about marriage and problems in marriages have been coming up, she's been reading forums and articles about marriage and every argument that comes with it. It becomes interesting to know that different people have different say about this topic. However, the aim here is not to try to convince anyone that marriage is without it's problems, neither is it an outlet to lay blame on people about how they default in building strong relationships. No! it's not. Notwithstanding, we would only be using the concept of a house mate to shed more light on this symbolic issue of marriage (if there is any such phrase...lol!).

No one ever said marriage is without it's issues but it seems people stress the problems or situations that surface in marriages. As individuals we have our issues, our flaws but yet we have family and friends that accept us for who we are. This also applies to marriage, we all know marriage is a union between a husband and his wife (generally, not placing a religious criteria). When you move in with a house mate, sometimes you guyz could become so close that you become the best of friends, and sometimes, people mistake you for siblings (assuming same gender or background). Prior to moving in you have your flaws but this is over looked by the house mate (if the above statement applies) and you're sometimes able to reach a compromise. It's similar with marriage, because your partner accepts you for you, with your flaws and differences in opinions, yet that does not disrupt the growth of the relationship.

However, if you have a house mate were either one can not stand the sight of the other, then living could become difficult. Similarly in marriage, if both partners are not compatible that could cause a big problem in the relationship. As a result, it becomes an issue of leaving the marriage, if one is not exactly an advocate of divorce (that's subjective). Unlike were with the house mate, you could decide to move out or have a change of house mates. Marriage isn't a bed of roses, it does come with it's own issues because it's no longer just an individual but two of them working to build their relationship. And as with a compatible house mate you both could be best friends for life. Just as with marriage, if you're able to make it work, then you grow stronger. At this junction your vows manifest itself...

"For better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do you part!"- Even in death you probably still would love the person (can't exactly tell you how that works!). It's been great having you around, take care. Arrivederci!!!